Learn to Love Yourself First

They say to avoid talking about politics, religion, and relationships. For the most part, ceciliajean.com has followed that “guideline.” But, it’s my blog, and and my religious morals and relationship views are hard to keep quiet.

I have never really been a long-term-relationship girl. On the contrary, all my friends are. I’ve been there for all the up’s and down’s of their boyfriend ventures. I’m the shoulder to cry on, but don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. I’m 19 (soon to be 20 in 5 days) and so I’m not running out of time to find a life-long partner. The Lord will take care of that when the time is right–I’m not worried. But, so many girls out there are AFRAID to be single, AFRAID not to have constant attention, AFRAID simply to be alone. It all comes down to the fact that they aren’t in love with themself and their “right-now” life. I really believe the greatest people come into your life when you’re the BEST version of yourself.

So this post is for you ladies out there…lol like every post I write, (I sound like a DJ at a club or something). I’m not here to preach, not at all. But maybe I can help
with a reality check of sorts …

“I will never forget you. See, upon the palms of my hands I have written your name.” Isaiah 49:16.

“For God has said, I will never fail you, I will never abandon you.” Hebrews 13:5

God has not forgotten you according to His will at the time of His choosing. He is simply just preparing something even better for you in His timing. It’s nice to hear, but it’s 100% more comforting to BELIEVE this. In today’s society it truly is hard to find someone who shares your same values and holds same beliefs. Look to God for reassurance in every aspect of life. Be open to new experiences. Greet each morning as a blessing full of
opportunities and possibilities. Then relax and with confidence in yourself push

“Those who look to Him are radiant.” Psalm 34:5

We need to figure out who we are, but consuming our lives with the obsessions of self-discovery, self-expression, self-identity, and self-fulfillment is not the way to do it. The bible points us to an entirely different pattern to finding our true identity–turning to Jesus Christ. It’s freeing to realize that we are not actually suppose to look to ourselves to define who we are, look to the Lord. There’s so much pressure to “learn who we really are.” Figuring out how to even do that and where to start is a huge struggle on its own.

Trust in the Him. He will give us the security, fulfillment, and confidence we need to love ourself–then we will discover our identity. Instead of asking “who am I?”, ask “who is Jesus?” Once we understand who He is and who we are in light of who He is, then we understand who we are truly meant to be. I constantly have to remind myself about this.

I totally get it, it’s so hard not to get hung up on all the surfaced, materialistic things that seem like they matter right now. Lost a snapchat streak? No text back? Maybe its time for a break. Taking a step back and looking at how these things will effect us long-term, or have no effect at all, really puts things into perspective.


Outfit Details

So in love with this Cabby/Fisherman/Train conductor hat trend…I bought 4 because I just love hats and not washing my hair…#realtalk. This Suede Hat I’m wearing is $13 and also comes in black.

Cable Knit Turtleneck Sweater $8 GUYS! It comes in 5 colors, too!

So my booties were from Target a year ago, but HERE is a super identical pair also from Target. HERE is a little more pricier Nine West pair that I wish I had.

My distressed mom jeans are my go-to right now! I’m usually more of a dark-wash person, but these jeans just get me.

If your reading this, I’m sure your Friday night is just as exciting as mine HAHA. But seriously, thank you!

Also, a special thanks to my little brother for letting me drag him to a forest preserve to take this pics for me. Love ya!

–Cecilia Jean–


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One thought on “Learn to Love Yourself First

  1. I LOVE this blog message. So true Cecilia – many young women ( and older women) are not comfortable being alone and learning who THEY are… sometimes unanswered prayers are what is best for us!!!!! LOVE THIS and Deme did great on the pics!!! Love you in the leaves!!!


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